Adolescent Interview- Week 10

Adolescent Interview

For this assignment, I interviewed my son’s friend of eleven years, JJ.  JJ is a sixteen year old is his junior year in high school.  He attends a New York City public school.  I knew that JJ would be open and candid with me, not merely telling me what he thought I wanted to hear.  I began by asking him about what electronic devices he has. He currently owns a computer, an I-pod, a cell phone, a Play Station three and an Xbox. JJ stated that he uses all of the devices on a daily basis with the exception of the gaming systems.  He uses them a few days a week and usually plays on line with other kids through Xbox Live. I asked JJ which websites he visits most frequently, he replied “Usually YouTube or I just Google stuff.  Mostly music and videos.”  Reflecting upon the subjects touched upon in class, I asked him if he had ever ben a victim of or partook in any cyber bullying.  He answered that if people read his comments on social media sights, they would say yes to both to but asserted that all of the comments that could be considered bullying were between friends and never to hurt anyone.  The social media sight used most frequently by JJ is Instagram and that not many teenagers are using Facebook anymore.  He didn’t spare me the reminder of my age by saying that older people like me and his parents are usually the ones using Facebook.  Regarding monitoring, he stated that his parents don’t monitor his internet use or his social media saying “Nah, I don’t have a hover mom”, a term used for parents who hover over their children watching their every move.   I happen to know otherwise.  His mother does monitor his activity, and has seen things that she didn’t approve of, choosing to stay quiet as a means of being able to continue to monitor him. I guess that makes her a closet hover mom.  That part of the conversation lead to me asking the difference between generational use of technology.  JJ stated that the younger someone is, the better chance they have in using technology.  The example he gave was his grandmother who wanted an I-phone.  Once she got it, she couldn’t figure out how to answer it and returned to her flip phone within two days.  He also stated that she is always calling him or his brothers to the house to help with her computer, printer or other devices.  When I asked if he knew what she used the computer for, he said that she has a Facebook page, but doesn’t know how to navigate it and that she plays Bejewled all day and still has trouble figuring out which remote woks what device.  (I admit, I have a hard time figuring that one out myself). 

Interviewing JJ reminded me of a time when my husband and I took him and son to an antique shop.  We purchased an “antique” French Princess style rotary phone.  When we plugged it in, it was hysterical to see the kids trying to figure out how make a call using the dial!  Technology has changed tremendously in a relatively short period of time, and it was never as evident than at that moment.  It seems that as a society, we just seem to accept technology as it comes.  We are eager to have the latest, the biggest and the best.  Instant gratification has become a way of life.  Everything is available literally at our fingertips and at the push of a button. I was a bit taken aback to hear that Facebook is for “people my age”. (And that the term hover mom is really a term.  It even cemented its place in the Urban Dictionary, another website used by people my age to keep up with the lingo that the kids are using.)  Overall, I have come to grips with the fact that technology is ever evolving and one day in the VERY distant future, I will be the grandmother who clings to my trusty old I-phone because the latest technology is beyond my realm of comprehension while toddlers will probably be flying hover crafts and

old-lady-sitting the people in our generation.